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Diana van Eyk's avatar

I agree. For me, friendships are a delight, and they don't feel like they involve any work.

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Abdulrahman.'s avatar

100%. We keep feeding our culture with the idea of 'work' in everything, even in our daily lives where we should respite from work, yet we turn our emotional/social wellbeing into 'work' in itself.. Very ironic..

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

What a delightful surprise to read about friendship's richness. Maybe we don't think enough both about the importance of friendship, and how they should flow with more ease. My sister and I were recently talking about friendships that go through difficult times, and she passed on wisdom she received from an ex-boyfriend many years ago, that friends are like ocean waves, and you just have to let them flow in their own rhythm.

I am surprised to find myself nearing 50 with several close friends. I'd always assumed friendships would be rare for me. I'm grateful for them, but also constantly surprised by them. We grow not together necessarily, but alongside, and it's kind of a wonder.

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Abdulrahman.'s avatar

1000% Tonia. I feel like relationships that grow with us maintain a sense of innocence and childishness that persists because we knew these people in our early years.. This is how it feels with the friends I know for over 20 years... We've grown significantly, but the essence of it remains, which is magical..

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

Well said. :)

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